Daddy “O” and I are so happy to celebrate a milestone in our marriage of 15 years. We have had so many bumps along the way in our marriage but have always found ourselves back to a place where we spiritually belong as soulmates with one another. I have teased and said that “I am married and I still like the person I am married to”. I am thankful for the marriage bond and commitment that we share and it is not always pretty and we may not always agree but we have fought it out together for the love we have and share.
Through these fifteen years, we have supported one another and stood strong. When I had, he did not have and when I did not have he had. We have certainly had a “real-life real truth” marriage. I can honestly say that there was only one time when I really thought we were not going to make it and I had a plan to just throw in the towel but something just would not allow me and I would think scripturally; “What God has put together let no man put asunder” and one of the scriptures that we both were once reminded of before was “A three-stranded cord can not be easily broken” These are the two scriptures that has kept Daddy “O” and I bonded together in our marriage in spite of the fun and socializing that we often do together. We really love each other and love being together, I think some would say that it looks like I do nothing without my husband but that is simply because we love spending time together even if it’s just driving. Also, there have been some dark moments in our marriage that required some deep reflection to continue to apply what works in our marriage and what does not. I am happy to say that many times we find a way to fix what is not or no longer working and it takes a committed partner to do that. Right now today, there are still things that Daddy “O” does that will make me fierce and I do things that make him cringe but we always get back to what matters most and that is the real love that we both know we have for each other. When you come together as a blended family, help raise children that are not your own (he has fathered eight with one woman and I have one biological of my own) and take care of another loved one (mother in law) as the main caregivers-then you have what is called an unselfish, unconditional real marriage and many would call us crazy.
When a person is a gem, it’s hard to not see them and only focus on their flaws. I believe that so many people throw away gems because they only focus on the flaws. I have flaws and Daddy “O” definitely has flaws but in our case, for marriage, our gems seem to always outweigh our flaws, and for that perspective, we are truly grateful.